First, I would like to apologize for taking so long to write a post. I will do better or else I will fire myself. Now that I got that out of the way lets begin

Throughout my career I knew grief and loss included death and many other endings and separations. For example grief and loss can be experienced because of a divorce, relocation, imprisonment, foster care placement, and relational separations. In order to fully increase our awareness about grief and healing we must understand that the death is the finale but we experience losses throughout our life that is not associated with physical death. Today’s post is short and sweet loss is more than death. If you do not know you better ask somebody.

Peace, Comfort and Blessings

Ruby

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Often in our low place of grief and grieving we question, what type of God would do such a thing? Even if we don’t say what type of God did this, we may say why didn’t God save our loved one? God could have easily kept our loved ones alive, why didn’t He? I am glad you asked here is the truth: When God created us He placed us in a place called Paradise. We had everything we needed in this land and everything was good. God loved us so much He gave us a choice to stay the course and do His will or go another way. When Adam and Eve went the other way three things occurred 1- We were kicked out of Paradise 2- Death and Tragedy was activated in the earth 3- We were separated from God.

The truth is sin of the world and our sins has caused death and tragedy to occur and separated us from God. Jesus reconnected us (for all who accepts Him) another chance at Paradise. Stop blaming God for death and tragedies. Remember He did not and would not do that to us because He loves us. Does that mean I can not be mad at God? No, you can be mad at Him it is okay to go through that process. Just remember He loves YOU

In this valley called  grief and grieving our emotions will change.  We could go from sad, sadder to saddest or angry, angrier, angriest and the emotion roller coaster continues.  In the early stages of dealing with the death of our loved ones, it is really difficult to remember that God stays the same and emotions change.  In the beginning stages of grieving we know that we will never get out of hurt and pain.  I know because I was there several times.  It is very difficult in our valley to even consider the thought of our emotions changing.  In our minds our emotions and present condition can not and will never be a positive; especially when the death of our loved one was a very very close relationship and bond.  Satan loves to trick us with the “you will never come out of this one speech”  I am here to say emotions change but God stays the same.  Acknowledge and embrace your emotions.  Remember they can  not and will not last because our Father loves us too much for us to stay in this valley.  Just remember God’s love is still there for us and God is still with us.  God does not change our emotions do.  We may be sad, hurting, guilty, unable to read the bible or go to church, unable to sleep, continuous weeping just know that this will not last.  I don’t care how long you have been in your valley our Father God through Jesus Christ and His Holy Spirit will not only comfort us but He will and He can heal us and bring us out of our valley to the mountain top.  Your joy will come after your mourning.  It is okay to grieve beloved but remember in all of my grief  lean to God’s understanding not mine or yours.  God loves us even when you can not feel that love trust me He loves you, better yet trust the Word He loves you.

I pray that from this day forward you remember I maybe be hurting and in pain today.  I may not see my way out of the valley of grief today But, one day everything will change as long as I hold on to Jesus unchanging hand and tell Him all about my trouble.  Your day of joy and new happiness is coming.  Trust me it happened to me.  You will begin to cry less and rejoice more in the memory of your loved one and in the love and healing power of our Savior.  God is real and His love for us remains the same.

Peace, Comfort and Joy

Ruby

In the beginning stages of grief and healing the ability to take deep breathe will not come naturally.  To assist you in using breathing exercises to relax and work through your grief JoyWillCome called on Kinder Associates to lend their wisdom.  We are very thankful that Kinder Associates gave us pointers on breathing and relaxation.  After we prayed, cried, screamed, and kicked we must breathe.  Use the guidance Kinder Associates gave pertaining to breathing.  Please click on the link below to learn more

Breathing Techniques

August has been a very hard and painful month in the past.  August is the month my brother Daniel was killed, my cousin Kita dead, my dog Fluffy died and it is the month I lost my perfect job.   Now that August is near I wonder, what will occur?  Concern, fear and anxiousness creeps in my thoughts (what will happen in August?).   I must put my thoughts and wanders in control, through the power of the Holy Spirit.  God does not give us the spirit of fear so even though these thoughts fall upon me; my trust in God supercedes my feelings and thoughts.  Sometimes I must look to another arena and focus on the victory in Christ Jesus.

Even though the up and coming month can be painful I know in my hearts of hearts that whatever comes, God is still God and I trust Him to comfort me, give me the strength to hold His hand, and the Holy Spirit to walk in each day of uncertainty.  The truth is,  everyday is uncertain but, the Word of God is true and alive.  So, I will not and I can not put my trust in my feelings or fearful thoughts.  All of my help come from the Lord; my Lord and Savior is what I will focus on and hold onto.  Feelings change but my Lord is the same yesterday, today and forever more.

If you have a month that many negative incidents occurred remember, God is God and still has all power in His hand.  We may not understand or like what occurred but we must keep on trusting and depending on Jesus.  God knows and God sees.  Do you trust Him no matter what?

May His peace, comfort and power, supercedes your fear, anxiety, worries, pain and hurt.

Peace, Love and Blessings

Ruby

BIBLICAL REFERENCE TO GRIEF

Jesus grieved for His friend Lazarus and He brought Lazarus  from death to life. John 11:41-44 (American Standard Version)  Please embrace and know we are not exempt from the pain of grieving.  If Jesus grieved for his friend even though He brought him back to life know we will also grieve.  It is alright to grieve do not allow anyone including yourself to stop your grieving.

Grieving is the most individualized experience we will encounter. No two people will grieve the same. Even though our reactions will be similar such as crying, shock, hurt, etc. the process and stages of our mourning will never be the same. Because grieving is not a one size fit all process.  Please know and be okay with the way you grieve.  Your feelings or not abnormal it is just your individualized way to grieve.  When my brother was murdered it took me over 16 years to go from denial to total acceptance.  I will blog about that experience real soon.  Lookout for that blog until that time remember, your grief and healing can never be compared to anyone not even yourself.  I almost forgot not only will people grieve differently you will grieve different as well with each and every loss.  Until next time please allow yourself to grieve and now that your grief can not and will not be compared to anyone not even you.

Words to an old song I love “through it all I learned to trust in Jesus, I learned to trust in God, through it all. Remember every step and breathe we take we must trust in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Time will not heal all things but God will give us the power through His son and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to comfort us and help us go through our valley of hurt, pain, guilt and disappointment. Remember through it all I learned to trust in my God and Savior.  Trust will not come naturally we must learn to trust in Him even in our pain.

To learn more about the process of grief check out http://www.joywillcome.com/grieving.html

Peace, Love and Blessings

Ruby